No parent likes to see his or her child fail. Some of the most gut-wrenching times in parenting are from helplessly watching a child misspell a word during a spelling bee, missing the cut for select soccer, or not being chosen for the coveted role in a performance. A "sense of failure" can also occur in the very young as well, in the sense of not being picked by a friend to sit together at lunch, not getting to be the line leader, or just not "quite fitting in."
Failure, however, can be transformed into a learning experience that actually improves your child's ability to succeed in the future. As Henry Ford once said, "Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently."
Although it is a natural part of living, failure can produce painful feelings such as anger, sadness, frustration, or low self-esteem in a child or adult. How your child experiences these emotions may be based on his age and maturity; he can, however, be taught to recognize and deal with those feelings in a positive way.
Our children see how we accept or deal with failure and that influences their own response. If we get violently angry when passed over for a promotion that we really wanted or get upset at a child's teacher or instructor because of an action (or inaction), they may model that behaviour when faced with their own failures.
What Can Your Child Learn From Failure?
When those first few steps are rewarded with his mother’s expressions of joy and a hug, for example, a toddler learns to set a goal—to repeat that activity that made his mother so happy so that he’ll get the same pleasant response. Encouragement and praise are powerful tools and effective on all ages.
Children can also learn more about problem-solving through failure. Parents should help them evaluate what went wrong and how they can prevent it from occurring again. If the child is old enough, ask her why she thinks she failed the test or didn't catch the ball. Her insight to the problem may surprise you.
Through trying and failing, then trying again and succeeding, our kids learn about patience, perseverance, and the feeling of pride in their accomplishments.
Turn Your Child's Failure into a Lesson in Success
Remember, we all fail at one time or another. Children can be taught to view failure as an opportunity if we show them how to learn from their mistakes and not be afraid to try again.
At Cheery Robot we encourage our kids not to be afraid of making mistakes. We create a supportive and friendly atmosphere in class, to encourage our kids to learn from their mistakes with the support of the Tech Coaches and classmates.
Cheery Robot teaches kids & teens computer science, coding, robotics and other valuable skills while having loads of fun in a collaborative and immersive way.